A financial sub/slave is simply defined as someone (typically in a Domme/sub relationship) who enjoys having their finance controlled by their Dom/me, Mistress or Master.
Time and time again, many Dommes who have just started to explore this fetish have wondered how exactly a finsub’s mind works.
Truly, he is different from your regular submissive and craves for something very unique.
YES! He has money but he doesn’t want to be in charge of it. There’s always this feeling of inadequacy, knowing he’s no match for you- A stunning sexy divine Goddess who is oozing nothing but power and authority. Therefore, his only motivation would be the humiliation he gets from having you control the money he makes. Sweet huh?!
Now let’s not rule out the fact that a finsub may also have other fetishes he gets a high from, perhaps jerk off instructions, small penis humiliation, boots worship, hypnosis and more. While it is not a finsub’s place to expect anything sexual in return from his Mistress or Domme, there’s the apparent effect of financial submission in all of his other fetishes. He expects his Domme to simply take charge while taking his money of course.
Bear in mind that finsubs are real people with a mind, brain and emotions flow through them sometimes, plus all finsubs are unique in their own way. Their approach to spending may be different, and the amount of money a finsub would spend in one hour to a day may differ from what another would spend weekly, or say in a month. It could be more or less depending on their budget, Dommes have to work with these budget and be as smart as an accountant. The act of strategically draining and continuously creating smart ideas for subs on making more money, tasks that are creative and well thought out are great too but remember what works for one sub might not work for another.
A finsub may not be interested in you if all you bring to the table is insults anyway, neither does he want to go bankrupt because of this fetish even if that would never change his perspective about findom.
Dommes must step their game up in this aspect of things. Build your finsubs and mould them into the kind of submissive that suits your style once you get to know him.
All finsubs are inclined to one thing, financial control, but their thirst for it calls for various forms of control. All of these again, depends on a Domme’s evaluation of the finsub. You may have noticed that he gets excited when you take control of his bank accounts, credit or debit cards, even to the point of taking his salary and paying him a monthly stipend only enough to take care of his basic needs and nothing else. Simply put, the money is not his to control.
Other subs are excited to have their other fetishes explored by a very capable, firm and Dominant findomme. Fetishes like blackmail and debt contracts for example. finsubs want to explore these two fetishes with an experienced Domme who will take them to the very plateau of the thrill it involves. It is not advisable to go into these type of fetishes with a sub knowing he is more experienced than you are. He will see right through you and that takes away all the power and respect given to you automatically. He wants you to take control, not the other way round.
Note also that naturally, subs don’t have an ounce of arrogance or ego in them. Although there will be bratty subs but that is all part of the excitement of wanting to be owned and controlled.
It shouldn’t shock you as well to know that you may not be his first findom experience neither will you be his last but he secretly wants you to take that spot as the last findomme standing. A finsub also might have had his fair share of fake Dommes, instadommes, beggers and time-wasters, strive not to be on this list by carving a niche for yourself. Having the right chemistry with your sub matters at the end of the day.